Domestic Violence & Abuse

Domestic violence or abuse is defined as:

any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to: psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional (Home Office 2006).

This definition includes so-called 'honour' based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and is clear that victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group. Whilst this is not a legislative change, the definition will send a clear message to victims about what constitutes domestic violence and abuse.

A relationship does not have to involve violence to be abusive.

Getting Help

If you think you or a friend are being abused, check the warning signs  and speak to someone you trust. Remember that there are services you can talk to locally and nationally for more information. You are never to blame for abuse, it is a choice made by the abuser.

Below are the contact details of the services who can provide help, advice and support if you, or someone you know, is experiencing domestic abuse:

  • Thames Valley Police, emergency calls, 999
  • Thames Valley Police, non-urgent calls, 101

If you are in immediate danger you should contact the police on 999.

  • National Centre For Domestic Violence: 0800 970 2070
  • National Freephone Domestic Violence 0808 2000 247
  • Wycombe Women's Aid is a registered charity working in the southern area of Buckinghamshire: 01494 461367
  • Victim Support, Free Support Line: 0808 1689 111
  • GALOP (National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline): 0800 999 5428,
  • Freedom Programme: 07746 667 651
  • FORWARD, Female Genital Mutilation, information and one to one support: 0208 960 4000 extension 1, 07834 168 141,